A Beginner's Guide To Getting Your Kink On

Let's be honest with ourselves - no matter how vanilla we might think we are, everybody still has their own fantasies that bring them pleasure; whether that involves dreaming about hooking up with a work colleague or learning a new sex position. Since the hugely famous Fifty Shades of Grey series, fantasies which involve BDSM in some way have become increasingly popular. This has lead to people turning their fantasies in reality with BDSM escorts - more commonly known as dominatrix escorts within the industry.  

So what is there to know about BDSM and the new craze which mixes the thrill of control, dominance and maybe a little pain with plenty of pleasure? Well, its time to stop suppressing your deepest sexual urges and learn more about BDSM with our beginner's guide - which aims to teach you the basics so you can experiment for yourself from home with a partner or with an escort in London.

What Is BDSM?

BDSM is an umbrella term for bondage, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism. BDSM has a reputation for kinky sexual acts, however not all BDSM activities involve sex. To learn more about the different aspects of BDSM, you can find how each sub-category can be defined and how they relate to escorts in the text below.

Bondage

The bondage aspect of BDSM refers to the sexual act where a submissive partner is physically restrained by items such as rope, belts or cuffs. Usually, the submissive partner will be tied to the bed where the master/mistress will then take control and do as they please. Bondage is not a crazy aspect of BDSM with bondage being commonly experimented with between couples looking to spice up their love life. You just need to remember escorts are trained to carry out bondage services safe so if you are experimenting with bondage at home, be sure not to tie each other up to tight, keep things safe and remember to have a safe word.

Dominant and Submissive

In BDSM, the D and the S stand for dominant and submissive.

Being dominant means that you enjoy and get sexual arousal from being in control of your partner during sex. This means in terms of meeting an escort, you want to book a submissive escort who allows you to take control of the booking and experience what you want.

On the flip side of being dominate is submissive. A submissive person is someone who enjoys being dominated. According to a study conducted by Christian Joyal in 2015, 64.6% of ladies and 53.3% of men have reportedly had sexual fantasies about being dominated, showing how common the demand for a mistress/master to take control in the bedroom is with the average person. This means that over half of the people asked in the study have dreamed about being submissive, which means in terms of booking a BDSM escort, they would seek a mistress/dominatrix.

Sadism and Masochism

Sadism and masochism is the part of BDSM which makes makes most people feel that BDSM is kinky and wild, due to the fact that sadism and masochism is the enjoyment from giving and receiving a painful experience.

A sadistic person experiences pleasure for inflicting pain onto somebody else, whereas a masochist is somebody who gets sexually aroused from being harmed, yes it is a bit strange, but who am I to judge.

Usually, in a relationship, one will the sadistic and the other masochist meaning both parties are always enjoying their roles.

History of BDSM

Despite their being evidence that act of BDSM activities date back to the 5th Century BC, BDSM has a large history related to the gay community in America because of the growing leather movement amongst the biker gangs after World War 2. Since then BDSM became more widely spread across the country with people of all different genders and sexual orientations starting to experiment with BDSM with the topic becoming a topic of conversation across the internet.

In 2020, BDSM is more common than ever before. Like i briefly mentioned early in the article, Fifty Shades of Grey has helped BDSM become much more mainstream. The books and films highlight the thrill that the act offers and has lead to many people experimenting with their partners. This demand has spilled out onto the escorting industry with escorts and members of the public turning to offer BDSM services to clients who are looking to fulfill their deepest and darkest fantasies.

What different types of BDSM services can you book with a Mistress?

Booking a BDSM escorts involves much more than simply choosing which mistress you would like to meet. Due to the fact their are many fantasies relating to BDSM, there are many different reasons to book a BDSM escort and for that reason, you need to know what you want to get out of the experience. This very question is what leads to their being many different BDSM services you can enjoy with an escort.

Like in escorting, you have the option of an incall or outcall booking. Where an incall may be different, is because unlike only visiting an escorts home, some mistresses do tend to have their own hired dungeons filled with kinky toys which acts as the perfect setting for some BDSM activities to occur.

Whether you do decide to book an incall or outcall, there are tons of different services and there are a few of the services you could hope to enjoy. Many involve fetishes like erotic wrestling and foot fetish, so be sure that you don't suppress your urges and choose exactly what you desire.

• Foot Fetish
• Bondage
• Erotic Wrestling
• Kinky
• Latex
• Spanking
• Tie and Tease

What Type Of Equipment Do BDSM Escorts Own?

For some people, the enjoyment of BDSM is not necessarily from the services but the extras that include outfits and toys that mistresses own. Here is a brief run down of the different types of toys and outfits mistresses most commonly own.

Toys include:

• Handcuffs
• Whips
• Paddles
• Restraints
• Strap Ons

Outfits include:

• Latex
• PVC
• Gimp Suits
• Extra Naughty Lingerie

Please be aware that when meeting a BDSM escort, you might need to inform the mistress in advanced about which outfits and toys you would like her to bring on your booking.