7 Tips to Be More Present on a Date

In our experience, presence is one of the single most important factors in whether a date goes well, especially a date with an escort. It can often be the difference between building chemistry that is totally electric or an awkward & disappointing encounter.

We’d all prefer to be on the electric chemistry side, but if you don’t notice that you’re not present or struggle to get out of your head and into the room, what can you do about it?

To answer that question, here are 7 tips to help you become more present, and in turn more charming, desirable and successful, on your dates.

Arrive Ahead of Time

Nothing kicks your brain into overdrive quite like being late. Arriving at your date even slightly late means you’re spending the first 20 minutes trying to ease yourself back out of an adrenaline and cortisol-induced problem-solving mode, and that kind of tension can make a bad initial impression.

What to do instead: 

Build in some buffer time, 10-20 minutes is plenty, and see how much pressure that takes off. 

Tune Down the Performance

A common mistake on dates is trying to manage how you’re being perceived. Am I interesting enough? Am I relaxed enough? Am I doing this right?  That internal monitoring pulls you out of the moment.

London escorts want to see the real you anyway, not a fabricated version you think will impress them.

What to do instead:

Shift the goal from “being impressive” to “being authentic.” When you take the spotlight off yourself (you’re the only one putting it there in the first place), everything changes. You can relax and actually pay full attention to what’s going on around you.

Ask Engaged Questions

Being present doesn’t necessarily mean talking less; it means engaging authentically and collaboratively. A good conversation is about sharing and learning. Sharing parts of you and learning parts of them. There are lots of ways to do this, but if you struggle to be present, it can help to pay attention to the types of questions you ask.

What to do instead:

Rather than using other people’s stories as a reason to tell your own, instead, when they finish, ask a thoughtful follow-up question. Then listen to the answer without planning your response halfway through.

Ditch the Phone

If your phone regularly demands too much of your attention, putting it on silent sometimes just isn’t enough. When your phone is visible, part of your attention stays tethered to it. Even without checking it, your focus is split.

What to do instead:

Put your phone in a bag, jacket pocket, or drawer. The further out of sight, the better.

Get Comfortable With Silence

Silence makes many people uncomfortable, so they rush to fill it with random chatter, jokes or justifications.

In reality, short pauses often deepen connection and can signal comfort rather than awkwardness.

What to do instead:
When a silence appears, give it a few seconds. If it still feels empty, speak, but often you’ll find that it resolves itself on its own.

Be Fluid With Your Plans

Overplanning is a surefire way to keep your brain firmly planted in the future rather than the present. This is common among first-time bookers who feel they need to have every detail of the date organised in advance. This becomes a problem when unexpected obstacles arise. You get stuck in traffic, service at the restaurant is slow, or your hotel room isn’t ready on time. 
What to do instead:

Plan one or two activities, but limit anything appointment-based. Accept that plans change, and if you run over at one location, consider skipping the next one. Even if things don’t go exactly to plan, you can still have a memorable experience if you stay present.

Preparing for Presence

Presence comes naturally to some, but for many of us, it’s worked on, and there are things you can do at home that will set you up for success where it matters. 

• Meditation is all about being present without stimulation. It can teach you to be comfortable and observant in any situation
• Uninterrupted reading helps your brain get used to sticking to the task in front of you
• Exercise cultivates mind-body connection, which can help you to feel grounded in your body day to day